Unlucky for some?

Two years ago, on this day, you and I shared something that forever changed us.  It was the day that both our hearts were broken.  Yours by a disease I had never heard of, and mine by the knowledge that your life would never be the same. 

It was Friday 12th June, you were 9 weeks old that day and you had been sick for 13 days.  Despite a cocktail of antipyretics and antibiotics, the fever continued to rage through your tiny body, and each temperature spike would see your heart rate soar to frightening heights.  The settings on the heart monitor had to be set far outside of normal levels or we would never have had any rest from it’s alarm, and the nurses maintained a close eye on you during those first two weeks.  By that time, you had undergone countless blood tests, two lumbar punctures, ultrasounds, x-rays, an MRI and a bone marrow aspiration.  Just a couple of days before this day your haemoglobin levels dropped dangerously low and you had to receive a blood transfusion.  That’s when I promised I would start giving blood as soon as we got out of there; a promise I have kept ever since.  I remember watching the blood travelling through those tubes incredulous that this was happening to us, to you.  I think I must have spent those first two weeks in a state of shock, it seemed so surreal.  How could you be so sick? 

It was after they gave you the blood transfusion that they came to talk to me about a bone marrow aspiration.  They didn’t need to tell me what they were looking for – there’s only one reason they wanted to get at your cells.  After the longest 3 hours of my life, where I was convinced that you were not going to wake up, they called to tell us we could come and collect you from theatre recovery.  Watching you go to sleep from the general anaesthetic was one of the hardest things I had ever had to do, and I hoped with all my heart that I would never have to see that again.  I cannot even begin to explain the relief when I saw you awake again.

The bone marrow test showed that your cells were healthy, and we celebrated that fact.  And yet that meant that you were really sick, and still nobody knew why.

That afternoon, on the 12th day, a Rheumatologist was asked to come and take a look at a rash that had appeared on your limbs.  He said that it was highly likely that you had an infection, and that there was a strong chance that you would get better and we would leave the hospital without any diagnosis; one of those unexplained things that we would eventually forget.  But.  But, he said, we ought to send you for another echocardiogram on your heart just to be sure.  Be sure of what? I didn’t ask.  Why didn’t I ask? I’ll always wonder about that.  In case you picked up on the word ‘another’, yes you are right.  You had already had a check on your heart earlier that week, on day 9, and it showed you had a murmur but nothing to be concerned about.  That echo was to throw them off the scent that the Rheumatologist had picked back up.

And so the day came.  The 12th June.  Day 13.  Unlucky for some.  

I took you with a nurse for your echocardiogram.  You’d had one before and there was nothing to worry about, so I just assumed this one would be the same.  Except it wasn’t.  And nothing has been the same since.  

That echocardiogram showed dilation of your coronary arteries, over five times their normal size.  Coronary aneurysms don’t happen to children.  Not unless they have Kawasaki Disease.  And there it was, on the 13th day of your illness, we finally had a diagnosis.  What a relief! That meant they could treat you, and you would get better, and we would go home and forget all about the worst two weeks of our lives.  Except then I had no idea that the damage wasn’t temporary.  Yes, they could treat the disease, but they could not reverse the damage that it had done to your heart.  We had to face the fact that one of, if not the most important organ in your body, was broken.

You were given a dose of intravenous immunoglobulin (IVIG), which is a blood product made from the antibodies from thousands of human blood donations, high dose aspirin, and methylprednisolone (intravenous steroids).  All the antibiotics were stopped – Kawasaki Disease is not an infection, but a vasculitis which causes inflammation through all the arteries in the body, with a penchant for little hearts.  The Children’s Hospital has every paediatric medical discipline under it’s roof, with the exception of Cardiology, and so they contacted a ‘nearby’ hospital with a paediatric Cardiology unit to ask for advice.  We were told that they had shared your results and that the Cardiac Unit was “not excited.” Apparently that was good news.  It meant that, whilst your heart was affected by the disease, it was not considered worrying enough to require more specialist care, and the children’s hospital continued to monitor your situation.  You had been so sick, and you were so young, that they didn’t take any chances, and you were sent for follow up echoes on Saturday and Sunday morning; no change.  No change is good.  And on Monday morning, you were sent for another.  Except this time, the nearby Cardiologists had reason to become “excited” and preparations were made for your ambulance transfer to the Cardiac High Dependency Unit, 36 miles away – but not before you had received a 2nd dose of IVIG to attempt what the first dose had failed to do.  Within 3 days of your diagnosis, your coronary arteries had dilated further and we would hear the word ‘aneurysms’ for the first time.

I’ve written many times about what happened next, and I hate to bring it all up again sweetheart.  It’s just that, despite my very best attempts to live ‘in the moment’, I must have left the door to this memory slightly ajar.  I didn’t mean to let it in, but it seeped through the cracks and it’s been like watching a scary movie through parted fingers all day.  No matter how hard I’ve tried, I just can’t help but relive those moments.  Today I feel all that pain, all over again.  I drove to Sheffield this evening on an errand, and felt the tears rolling down my cheeks.  I have never seen as many flashing blue lights on the motorway as I did tonight, jeering at me, forcing me to remember, and fleetingly I wondered how easy it might be to make that pain go away.  But then I remembered that you are still here, and it isn’t 2015 anymore.

And I guess as I sit here tapping away at the keyboard, I have to ask myself whether the number 13 really was unlucky for you.  Because despite the fact that your heart will never be the same again, I have to remind myself that the improvement we have seen has indeed proved them wrong.  In fact, I would go as far as saying that for you, 13 was very lucky indeed.  The decision that your doctors made on that day was one of the decisions that saved your life, I am certain of it.  I cannot even begin to imagine how differently things would have turned out had they not carried out that echo.  And I can be angry and sad for the rest of our days that they didn’t catch it earlier, but that won’t make the pain go away.

Today I will allow myself to feel the grief of loss for your perfect heart again, but tomorrow I shall remind myself of how full my heart is for loving you.  I cannot remain sad, when I am so incredibly lucky to have you here.

I love you Peanut.

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Best before 31st May…

Two years.  Don’t they go by in a blink.  It is hard to believe that two whole years have passed since that day in May 2015 that we will never forget.  Harder to believe that we are living a life more ‘normal’ than we ever could have imagined possible back then.  Back then it felt as though the bottom had fallen out of my world, and I was shrouded by a blackness that I thought would envelop me for ever. Today, it’s mostly sunny with a tiny chance of rain.  Today life is about as normal as it is ever going to get.  The last two years have been two of the most extraordinary of my entire life.  And you, my dearest Freya, my little “Peanut”, were the single most extraordinary thing of all.  Meeting you was like walking into the sun, and in spite of everything you went through, we went through, the clouds were never allowed to cast too large a shadow because your light burned through them like a flame through silk.

The past few weeks have allowed a melancholy feeling to settle around my shoulders like a familiar, almost comfortable wrap; two hands that placed themselves upon my shoulders, whilst a low voice whispered, “Remember me?”  It was a rhetorical question, of course I remember her.  She is sorrow, and fear, and dread, and grief.  I didn’t consciously awaken her, but the date was drawing near and I guess my subconscious had figured it out before I did.  I had been cleaning out the kitchen cupboards, like you do every now and again when you realise the dust is beginning to settle on the shelves!  I emptied the bottom shelf of one of the cupboards – that’s where we keep all the everyday medicines.  It’s where we keep your medicine, in a little pink sandwich box with Barbie on the lid.  I take that box out of that cupboard every single day to prepare your aspirin. Yet on this day, when I placed the box back in the cupboard I realised that it had gone back in a different way to normal.  I realised because there staring back at me, was the hospital label – we had used that box to store your medicines when you were in the Children’s Hospital.  And there I was, right back in that cubicle behind the nurse’s station, and you were by my side, in your cot, all wires and bandages and looking like someone else’s baby.  Your Auntie popped in just at that moment and for a while I was somewhere else.  When she snapped me out of it, tears came out of nowhere and I shrugged it off as ‘a moment’. What it was, was a flashback.  The first I have had since I was successfully treated for PTSD last year.  Luckily it was short-lived, and I was nothing more than a little shaken afterwards.  I’ve not had one since, though the sound of that musical seahorse going off the other day threatened to bring another.  Instead I considered how the fact that you were playing with it was a good sign that you do not remember like I do.  That is indeed a blessing.

Anyway, enough of that miserable talk! I haven’t written to you in so long, and I have so much to tell you! I want to show you how far we’ve come in the last two years, and let you know how remarkable your life has been so far.  On the 28th May last year, I wrote a blog which I gave the rather despondent title of “Stealing Joy”.  You see, that is how I felt back then.  Kawasaki Disease had come into our lives and stolen everything that was meant to be joyful away from us.  Here is some of what I wrote:

“I want to allow myself to believe all the motivational clichés about things happening for a reason, about how far we have come, about how lucky we are to have Freya here in our lives and how we should count our blessings.  But today that all feels like bullshit.  Today I find myself mourning for normal…Today marks the anniversary of the last day we knew what normal was.  I wish that day were Groundhog Day and we could live it over and over and over so that the 31st May would never come.

I don’t want to wallow in the misery of the last year, believe me. I want to be thankful for what we have, and cherish every moment.  I want to believe that this happened to us for a reason, that we will all be better people for it, that I will look back on all this one day and laugh at how wrapped up I was.  I will allow that to come…”

And what I want to tell you now, sweetheart, is that it did come.  Normal came.  And with it came joy.

April 2016 marked the end of my maternity leave, but I wasn’t ready to return to work for many reasons.  For one, there were still issues with your immunity, and the risks connected to you being exposed to chicken pox were too great for me to consider placing you in any kind of childcare.  Heart-wise things were pretty unstable, with lots of unknowns, and much deliberation about whether we should allow the hospital to plough ahead with a procedure that I would prefer to avoid.  At that time the uncertainty filled me with dread and I was struggling to deal with what life had thrown at us.  I was about to receive treatment for PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder), I had hit a very low point in my life where I felt let down by many people in it, and life itself.  I felt very alone, except for you.  You were the only one who could make me smile.  At that time I was sliding down walls in hospital corridors when an anxiety attack took hold, or crying alone in the early hours of the morning because there was nobody to share my grief or fear with.  When my employer agreed to allow me to take a career break to get back the time we lost, it was like I had been given a new beginning.  I was paired with the most amazing counsellor who helped me deal with what happened to you, and then some. And I began to believe in life again.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think I will ever stop being afraid of what lies around the corner.  And I am more afraid of death now than I ever was before.  I think about it a lot, almost daily.  Not in a macabre way, just a reminder that tomorrow isn’t promised.  Sometimes I feel deep sadness at the thought that I might not get to meet your children, my grandchildren.  I just have to try to stay young, so I might get that chance.  I feel a dreadful sorrow when I think about my own mortality.  I am so afraid to leave here, leave this place and my family.  I cannot bear the thought of being parted from it.  But then I guess it is our fear of death that keeps us alive.  If there is one thing I learned from my counselling it is this – that no amount of worrying about the future is going to change it.  I have learned to live in the moment (mostly).  Sometimes the resolve dissolves and I find myself fearful, especially as the seasons change and we head towards the Autumn, and the angiogram that I have such an issue with.   But mostly, we live in the now.  And since I went back to work full-time in April this year, there really isn’t much time to think any further forward than that!

When I was approaching my return to work, I became very sad.  The thought of not spending every day with you made my heart-break.  I wasn’t worried for you – I knew you would adapt and that it was time for you to experience new things and to make new friends.  I was worried for me though.  I honestly did not know how I was going to get through it.  We ended the two-year break with a fantastic holiday in Mexico.  We were finally able to fly, having managed to get you caught up on all the routine vaccinations you missed because you were so young when you got sick.  I had some contemplative moments on that holiday – each day that passed took me another day closer to leaving you. But I told myself that rather than think of what I was losing, I should think of what I have gained.  I was given the gift of time; another year to spend with you before I had to return to a ‘normal’ I never thought we would see.   A year to fill with a joy capable of erasing a year of misery.  And I have to tell you, that despite everything, these last two years with you have been extraordinary, because of who you are, and what you have achieved, and what you have done for me.  I am a better person because of you.

And you? Well, what about you?! Let me tell you what you have seen in this last year.  You’ve seen animals and sea-life, you’ve swam in pools and an ocean.  You’ve visited the home of a literary great, and learned where your name came from, my Freya Ellis Belle.  You have made firm friends.  You’ve danced and bounced, and you know your good toes from your naughty toes (thank you Mrs Riley!).  You have inspired a donation of £75,000 from a stranger across the other side of the world, and raised £8,000 from your 1st birthday party.  You’ve sat upon the knee of world leading Kawasaki Disease specialist, Professor Jane Burns.  You’ve been to Christmas markets, and Summer Fayres. You were awarded special recognition for Triumph Over Adversity at the Doncaster Free Press Awards. You have raised awareness of this disease, with tens of thousands of people having seen your face.  Last month over 5,000 people viewed a video of you on Facebook, raising even more awareness.  You have been in Newspapers and on ITV News.  You inspired me to give blood, and register for stem cell donation.  And you inspired me to run so that just this weekend I raised nearly £3,000 running 10km in the Great Manchester Run!  You, or Kawasaki Disease, or a combination of the two have made me stronger, wiser, more compassionate, kinder, more alive than I ever was before, and for that I am thankful.

On the train home from Manchester this weekend, I opened my finisher’s pack to have a look at what was inside.  My runner’s medal, a sick bag (I’ll tell you about that one day), some leaflets, a bar of chocolate.  I look at the wrapper to see what kind of chocolate it was and my eye was drawn to the best before date:

Best before 31st May.  

Perhaps you were best before then.  You were best in terms of being undamaged, your little heart was in tact and you were perfect.  But actually, you are so much bigger than the 7 weeks before you became sick.  You are more than Kawasaki Disease, more than a broken heart.  And I am more than a mum.  I am your mum, and that makes me a very lucky woman indeed.  I became my best after you.

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Return to Cannon Hall Farm

Dear Freya

I must admit the title of this blog post made me smile a little!  Sounds like one of those old stories I read when I was a child, usually involving four or five intrepid children and a dog off on some treacherous adventure.  Today was not quite so dramatic as any of those stories, but it was an adventure for us nonetheless, and I must start by saying thank you for making today wonderful, when it might have been otherwise.

Today we visited a local visitor attraction, Cannon Hall Farm.  It is about a 45-minute drive from home, in Barnsley, South Yorkshire, and is home to lots of animals that you can get close to. At this time of year, in the Spring, the farm gives birth to new life in the form of tiny piglets and little lambs and if you are lucky with the timing you can get to hold a guinea pig and stroke a fluffy rabbit too.  We arrived just after 11am, and you were excited about seeing the ‘aminals’ as soon as we got out of the car.  I’ve visited many times over the years, but this was the first time you were seeing it with your eyes, and it was magical.  I love seeing life through a child’s eyes.  Everything is new and wondrous and those big blue eyes sparkled with excitement at every new thing that you encountered.

We paid our £5 entry – there’s a special offer on at the moment and you were free anyway, so it was most definitely good value for money!  We bought a bag of animal feed too, so you could interact with the animals.  We were presented with stickers to wear to show that we had paid our way, but even though I confidently placed mine on my coat, you were reluctant to allow me to do the same with yours.  See, you have developed this fear of stickers, presumably a mixture of ECG memories and the steady flow of sticker offerings at every medical appointment, but whatever it is those stickers cause you to recoil, and back away like I have some kind of venomous creature in my hands.  I managed to convince you within about half an hour that you had to wear your sticker if you wanted to feed the animals – you may only be 22 months old, but you are  bright as a button and you were really keen to send the food down those chutes.  I took the small victory, and punched the air in my mind.

You were mesmerised by the Meerkats and ran up and down the enclosure as they chased you from the other side of the glass.  Seems they sensed your fun and wanted to join in.  And then we went on to the breeding barns, led by a very eager you running off ahead, giggling “What’s in there?!” as you ran. You adored the pigs and their piglets, and toddled excitedly from barn to barn shouting “Bye bye!” to the animals as we left them.  You weren’t too keen on the tractor cleaning out one of the stalls, but we moved on quickly enough for you to forget about the monstrous roar of it’s engine as it shovelled away all the muck and straw.  You gambled on the blue ferret to win the race, but sadly it had no intention of leaving its starting block and lay there curled up in the warm Spring sunshine, along with green and yellow, while red took the title with ease.  We walked past the birds on our way to the sheep enclosure, where you delighted in the sounds of the lambs, remarkably like new born babies crying for their mummies, until one of the ewes decided to utter a deep, groaning “baaaa” and you ran screaming “Help me, help me mummy” until I scooped you up and headed back towards the centre of the farm!  As we passed the birds again on the way back, I saw the network of tunnels in the children’s play area out of the corner of my eye.  Silly really, that it was the sight of those tunnels that drew an inward gasp and brought a tear to my eye, but I quickly brushed the thought away as we headed back to see the meerkats again – they would bring back the smile in an instant.

We had pretty much exhausted your attention span, and the use of your little legs, by around 1pm so we popped into the restaurant for some lunch.  I ordered a sandwich and chips for us to share and we took a seat in the corner where I could pen you in at the end of a row of benches!  You like to wander, and I needed you to stay put and eat some dinner.  On the table next to us were an elderly ‘couple’ (I could tell by their conversation that they were not married, and later found out that they were both widowed friends).  Both the lady and the gentleman were showing an interest in you.  I mean, at risk of sounding sycophantic, you do draw attention to yourself. Those huge ocean blue eyes, and your little curls, along with this way that you carry yourself that defies your 22-months on this Earth, seem to gather interest everywhere we go.  You are quite simply captivating.  I don’t know what it is that you have, but I guess although it sounds like far too mature a word to use to describe you, I would say that what you have is charisma.  Oodles and oodles of charisma.  Whilst I am most definitely your number one fan, you seem to be gathering a following wherever you go.

Anyway, to get back to the point of our ‘adventure’.  After a number of musings and comments from the couple next to me, the gentleman remarked at how clever you are – he had been observing you when you were let down from the table and noticed how considered every move you made was.  He said you seemed to be well aware of everything and everyone around you, and he said “She’ll go far that one.” He said you seem ‘lively’ and I laughed and said “Oh yes! She keeps me on my toes!” and the lady replied, “Yes, but better to have them like that,  than in hospital poorly.”  I could have brushed over that comment, but instead I remarked that you had indeed had your fair share of that, and of course this sparked some interest in your situation.  “In fact, the last time we were here was the day before she became sick.”

And there it was; the reason for our visit.  We have not been back to Cannon Hall Farm since that day before our lives were changed forever.  Saturday 30th May 2015; you were 7 weeks old and it was our first outing as a family.  I don’t know why we haven’t returned to visit the farm really.  There is absolutely no suggestion that your illness was linked to the farm, and whilst the cause is unknown so it could never be completely ruled out, it is more likely to be just a coincidence and bad timing.  I think I just didn’t want to undo the memory of that perfect moment in our history.  I mentioned earlier that the sight of those tunnels was the only thing that triggered an emotional response (though I had been working hard to suppress the emotions I could feel crushing my chest all the morning).  I guess it’s because we spent a while there whilst your brother and sister got themselves lost in the maze of tunnels.  I think I fed you as we sat on a bench and watched the children playing in the early Summer sunshine, and congratulated myself on this perfect life we had created.  And up to that moment, Peanut, it really had been perfect.  You were perfect.

That day in 2015 at Cannon Hall Farm marked the end of perfect for us, or so it seemed.  It feels so unfair that things changed so early on in your life, before we had a chance to make any more perfect memories.  I guess I’ve wanted to preserve the memory of that day, hold on to the precious moment that is captured in sepia images in my mind.  It has been a huge flag on a timeline, marking the change from perfection to imperfection, and giving me something to grieve, to pine for.  But do you want to know something, Freya? What I realised today is that there was really no need for me to hold that moment on a pedestal as something to be quite so treasured.  Because, with the exception of 6 long weeks in a hospital cubicle and all the trauma of 2015, every single moment with you is something to be treasured.  Yes, I felt sadness wash over me when I remembered how carefree and wonderful our lives seemed on that day at the farm, but when I sat and thought about it I realised that without what happened to you, without Kawasaki Disease and it’s gifts (yes, you detect sarcasm) then we wouldn’t have experienced the wonder of today.  Without Kawasaki Disease, I would have returned to work after a year on maternity leave, and our moments would have been reduced to the same precious hours on weekends that your siblings were lucky to grab in between the mountains of washing and ironing.  Because of Kawasaki Disease, you now have a broken heart and an uncertain future.  But because of Kawasaki Disease, I now have a heart that is capable of feeling more than it ever had before.  It showed me a glimpse of what it might feel to lose someone I loved, and made sure that I will never take you, or anyone else I love, for granted.

Of course, I wish that we had never been introduced to this insidious disease.  I wish that you hadn’t been so little and therefore susceptible to the very worst that the disease had to offer.  I wish we didn’t have to face a future with hope, but no guarantees.  Our lives would have been so different without it, but I am not sure if our lives would have been better.  Is that wrong? I don’t know.  I just know that what happened to you in 2015 created an opportunity for me to be a better version of the me I had once been.

Today, as I saw the wave of sadness cross that lady’s eyes when I told her that you had a damaged heart, it struck me at how terribly unfortunate your circumstances must seem to someone on the outside, even if, as the lady said, “You wouldn’t know to look at her!”  But to us, this is just our normal.  Today I realised that what we have is not an altered you or a changed you.  The you we had for 7 weeks at the start of your life with us was wonderful, but it was not a patch on what was yet to come.  You have given us 22 months of extraordinary, and I cannot even begin to put into words how grateful I am to you for today, and all the days just like it, both in our past and in our future.

Whatever it is that radiates from within your little body, it takes my breath away and  I love you with all my heart.

A Family Affair

Yesterday it was the annual UK National Kawasaki Syndrome Support Group (KSSG) Family Day; an event put on by the founders of the Group to provide the opportunity for families to come together to share the one thing that we all have in common; our lives have been touched (more like whacked) by Kawasaki Disease.

Freya and I, and my eldest daughter Eliza, travelled down to Coventry to attend the event; our first since Freya’s diagnosis.  When the last event took place, Freya was just 22 days old and we were blissfully unaware of what would unfold a few weeks after that.  At that point, we hadn’t even heard of the disease with the bizarre name that, whilst considered rare, is the leading cause of acquired heart disease in children in the developed world.  And why would I have needed to know about it anyway? That kind of stuff didn’t happen to us; it happened to other people.  It happened to the people that were at that family day whilst I sat at home gazing into the eyes of my beautiful, healthy, newborn baby.  Wasn’t I lucky…

Who knew that one day, a little over a year after Freya was born, I would be attending an event with families affected by this little known disease.

Freya was diagnosed on Friday 12th June 2015.  She was 63 days old.  On a Friday 9 weeks prior, Freya was born in our local hospital.  At 7 weeks, she developed symptoms of meningitis and went into septic shock.  13 days later an echocardiogram would secure a diagnosis of atypical Kawasaki Disease, after 2-weeks of drugs, tests and invasive procedures failed to provide any answers.  Once we got the diagnosis for Freya – after the initial “Oh thank God it’s that! Never heard of that so it can’t be that bad!” – we took to the internet, and the mystery of Kawasaki Disease began to unravel, along with an understanding of the severity of the disease and it’s impact on the affected child.  Even when they told us that Freya’s coronary arteries (the ones that supply blood to and from the heart) were severely dilated, I still didn’t appreciate the long term effect that this would have.  I thought it was a side effect of the disease, that they would give her medicine, and that it would all go back to normal in a few days once the meds had their chance to work…

Luckily, this is true for the majority of children.  Approximately 75% of children diagnosed with Kawasaki Disease will manage to escape any coronary involvement (although evidence is suggesting that these children do not escape all potential lasting effects from this disease).  With fast treatment, the risk of prolonged damage to the heart is reduced from 25% of cases to around 6%.  Freya received the treatment, but the damage to her heart continued to worsen.  A second dose of the treatment didn’t stop the inflammation caused by the disease either, and so she was prescribed an infusion of a product called Infliximab made from the antibodies of mice that seemed to do the trick.  Combined with the other treatment – the previously administered IVIG doses, high dose aspirin and intravenous steroids – the disease appeared to be stopped in its tracks, and it was time to focus on maintaining her condition.  The rest has been documented in my blog posts along the way, and to cut a long story short, suffice it to say that Freya’s coronaries have started to remodel to within normal range.  She continues to take aspirin daily for it’s anti-platelet effects, and she will undergo a procedure later (possibly June this year) to ascertain the cause of the remodelling (healthy or otherwise).  But back to the main point of this blog post today…

The Family Day

I don’t know how many families attended, but the room was buzzing with the chatter of the families who did attend from the moment I arrived.  I was greeted by one of the founders of the Group, Sue, who came and gave me a big hug and couldn’t wait to get a cuddle from Freya – they had met some months before and I joked that Sue was like a ‘baby whisperer’ as I hadn’t seen Freya quite so happy to have a cuddle before!

I took my eldest daughter too (my middle child, Finlay, decided that his friend’s laser birthday party was too good an opportunity to miss so he stated at home!)  Looking around the room, I saw faces that were familiar from the profile pictures that you see popping up in the Support Group Facebook pages from time to time.  I’m not going to name individuals because I don’t have their permission to do so, but it was lovely to chat to people who I’ve communicated with on different KSSG Facebook threads, as well as meet new people too.  Some of the families had been to previous family days, for others it was there first time like me.  Talking to the parents around the room, you got a real sense that this is something that sticks with you for a long time.  Diagnosis dates ranged from months ago to years ago.  I spoke to one gentleman who had to face this disease with his child 15 years ago.  That’s before the internet had become as useful and saturated with information as it is now (and that’s saying something, because even now there is a dearth of useful information about the disease).  We all shared our stories, all different but with some similarities.  It felt good not to know that we are not alone.

As well as the informal chatter amongst parents, and the new friendships being formed amongst the children, some useful information was shared in relation to genetic research, and some developments about future projects to change the face of Kawasaki Disease in our country (also not for me to share here, but I am sure things will begin to unfold soon).  The day seemed to whizz by in a flash.

The people who have been supported by the KSSG will have joined the Group at varying stages of their journey with Kawasaki Disease.  Some have been members for years, others recently joined, like me.  And everyone’s circumstances are different; some will have needed a lot of support from the Group, for others just the knowledge that there is someone there if they need them is enough.  Those that have been dealing with KD for a number of years will have seen the group evolve over the last 20 years, will perhaps have seen new developments in the world of KD.  For people like me, joining less than a year ago, much of those developments will already have happened before our time, and so we only know what we know now.  And I’m sure there is so much more available to us now than there has been in previous years, but I think one thing that all of us in the Kawasaki family agree on is that there is still so much more that needs to be done to put Kawasaki Disease on the radar of medical professionals and ordinary people like you and me.  There is most definitely an appetite for change, and there are plenty of people who are willing to support that change too.  I imagine most, if not all of us, left yesterday feeling pretty optimistic about the future of the disease.

One thing that was noted was that looking around the room, you could not tell who was a sufferer and who wasn’t.  Eliza (my eldest) spent a lot of the day chatting with a couple of lads around her age.  I believe both boys have suffered with Kawasaki Disease and deal with the after effects of that illness today, but Eliza didn’t know it.  They didn’t talk about it; they talked about ‘normal’ stuff – music and school and what they like to get up to in their spare time.  Children with multiple giant coronary aneurysms ran around that Rugby Club alongside children that had never had a day’s illness in their lives.  These kids are remarkable.  They face regular medical check-ups, uncertainty about what lies ahead, some have had to stop doing things that they loved to do before all of this happened to them.  And yet you wouldn’t know it to look at them; they’re made of strong stuff.

And Freya? Well, she crawled around happy as a pig in muck all day! And she was clearly inspired by the other children, as today she decided that she would take her first unaided steps and prove that she too was made of the same strong stuff as those other kids who share something in common with our little girl.  Not Kawasaki Disease.  That’s a given.  They share the fact that they are extraordinary, in more ways than one.

Thank you to the KSSG for putting on the event, and to those that helped them to pull it all together.  I didn’t take many pictures during the day as I was too busy talking (there’s a shock, lol!), so here is one of my daughter Eliza with the face paint that she did not want to take off!

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